When we are born into this world we think all our needs are going to be met, and unfortunately often they are not. So when we are children we fit into one of these four roles to gain attention from our parents and get our needs met- the rebel, the sickly one, the intellect, & the carer.

Today I wanna talk about the intellect and carer…

Were you the caring, good girl or the intellectual one when you were younger to have your needs met and to gain attention form your parents and other people around you? But your needs still weren’t being met or validated? Wee you not seen or heard? Are you still carrying that blueprint with you now trying to meet everybody else’s needs but not your own? and is it serving you anymore?  Is it leaving you frustrated, angry and irritable and keeping you stuck??!!

In the process this old outdated survival pattern has made you lose your connection to who you are and your voice? are you having difficulty saying no and establishing boundaries for yourself an d other people? Are you meeting your own needs? Or have you become lost and don’t know who you are? Because your needs aren’t being met are you suffering from stress? Depression, anxiety and not really knowing your purpose and going around each day in a state of overwhelm, analysis paralysis and allowing the outside world to control you?

Are you going into a self sabotaging cycle of maybe drinking, shopping too much, taking drugs etc?  You see you just need clarity, and to change the blueprint & beliefs that you have been conditioned to do in order to get your needs met and in the process you have forgotten who you are and your purpose and values.

Know this, this is not you, its your old conditioning holding you back, the self image you hold of yourself, maybe you didn’t feel safe sharing your voice, maybe amongst it all trying to play good, you have suppressed yourself and this has lead to agitation and depression and the anxious feeling well time is running out. And the cycle keeps going round and round. You somewhat believe on a sub-conscious level that maybe all amazing things in all areas of your life are not available to you?  I see this so often in clever professional women that find it hard to say no and have attracted toxic relationships because they try to be people pleasers and take on an array of other people’s problems with poor boundaries for themselves.

They have difficulty making decisions in work and in their personal life. You often find it difficult to change because well your sub-conscious mind is ruling the roost. You have so much potential that needs to come to the surface yet you are self sabotaging yourself and your truth! Lets unleash the real you inside of you and get rid of these outdated conditioning. Let's release the you know is not for you yet continue to be trapped in and holding you back. Let's get super clarity with your true knowing, to say yes to full expression of you and saying No to what’s not aligned with you and knowing this intuitively!

My mentorship program “The reset” my new private client program is here, all in, on what is within, to bring the uniqueness of to the surface, and the way it is meant to be.

designed for those who have lost their autonomy due to unpredictable childhood homes or who have been conditioned to believe that what they think and feel is irrelevant. This approach designed to help empaths, codependents, adult children of alcoholics, and survivors of narcissistic abuse learn to regain their emotional independence .

You want to talk and be led, guided, brought back to your truth, ultimate confident self, your purpose. Free from Anxiety, Depression, low self esteem, feeling lost & stuck,

in a state of overwhelm, stress and analysis paralysis  and self sabotaging behaviours.

 Come & learn how to honour your true self, in spite of being conditioned to feel like you were never good enough!

It's time for a RESET…. email me at holly@hollywheelertherapy for details. Or You can also check out the program here…..