Narcissists are Like paedophiles (who sexually abuse children) Narcissists have a nose for co-dependent victims who are naturally unable to recognise they're scheming and highly manipulative ways.

 

As with a paedophile a playground their laser guided vision, identifies and locks onto people who are the most vulnerable to their intentions and most incapable of defending themselves.

 

narcissists also possess an uncanny ability to tell whether potential victims are pathologically lonely or emeshed by core real or perceived beliefs of powerlessness and weakness.

 

They seize upon anyone in a given crowd who appears isolated from others, or whose loved ones despite their protective and loving intentions are uninterested in them or absent.

 

The perfect narcissistic victim has been taught the futility of fighting back as doing so often makes matters worse. These cunning perpetrators narcissists who are often are sociopathic purposely choreograph their victims experience, so the victim falls helplessly over heels in love with them - known as love bombing.

 

And once in the soulmate “fog” the co-dependents (disempowered empaths) invite these malicious individuals into their vulnerable areas both physically and emotionally, where the scheming pathological narcissists take up permanent residence.

 

Then after this brainwashing and gaslighting are just a few of the many mind control tactics used by a narcissist The primary difference between the two is that brainwashing relies on forceful and obvious mind control strategies.

 

Gaslighting is carefully cloaked in secrecy. So they will make people believe only what you want them to believe by continually telling them no, it's true and preventing any other information from reaching them.

 

They pressurise people into adopting radically different beliefs. By using systematic and often forcible means and persuade by means of propaganda or salesmanship.

 

What you need to understand is that brainwashing is mind control and brainwashing employs secret but covertly forceful, psychological strategies with the purpose of changing a person's belief system, perception, attitudes and coping abilities through repetition and purposeful confusion, intimidation and regimented campaign of propaganda.

 

Victims unconsciously relinquished their version, perceptions and analysis of reality accept the forced version. It is a method of methodical and controlled system of indoctrinating a specific set of beliefs that before the brainwashing was not held by the victim.

 

Brainwashing relies on the systematic application of isolation, verbal and physical abuse and mind clouding techniques like sleep deprivation and malnutrition to reduce comfort levels and feelings of hope. Shifting from cruelty to seemingly altruistic concern creates psychological instability and increases levels of uncertainty, despair and hopelessness. These cumulate in the adoption of poor set of ideas, views and beliefs, and brainwashing often takes place in an environment of isolation, meaning or normal social reference points are unavailable. There is often the presence of constant threat of physical harm, which adds to the victims difficulty in thinking

 

Whereas Gaslighting is an insidious mind control method. sociopathic pathological narcissists, covertly use on their vulnerable codependent prey.

 

They target individuals who believe their false Self, affection and promises of protection. Narcissists are most successful when casting themselves are loyal, dutiful and unconditionally invested in defending and caring for their victims.

 

Gaslighting is systematically used to manipulate a codependents environment so they are powerless to fight back. Isolated from anyone who could help them and convince their victims impairment of perception by  making  them inadequate and unlovable on the outside to other people as well as themselves which creates carefully choreographed, false but realistic relationship with their captor.

 

They implant narratives of advising distorted versions of reality to weaken their victim neutralise their defences, and turn their own mind against them. The scheming narcissist chooses upon that either did not previously exist or was only a mild or moderately bothersome problem about which the victim was already aware.

 

Or the narcissist carefully and methodically choreographs a victim's environment so that they repeatedly experience the staged problem posed up with a new or pre existing  problems.

 

The narcissist seizes on the stage moments by implanting a narrative to make the victim feel guilt for what they did. Shame for who they become and believe that they are unable to control the problem on their own. Over time, this scenario further insulates them with securities and paranoia, methodical barricades of false narratives about the problem.

 

And the co-dependents inability to control or stop it, and the impact it has having on others purposely manifests as thoughts and feelings of hopelessness, powerlessness and a deepening of the pre existing core shame.

 

This cements their desire to isolate into the safe world inhabited only by them and the narcissist.  Not only does the Narcissist make the co-dependent victim inaccessible to anyone who could protect or rescue them.

 

They convince them that these people don't care level want to be with them.

 

Moreover, they are effectively persuaded if they should visit their friends or loved ones more harm than good would come of it. In severe cases of gaslighting the victim will defend the gas lighter, as well as sound an alarm if someone should try to intervene in their relationship. Not only does the co-dependent defend these new self-narratives, but loyalty to the loving and protected Narcissist is paramount. This will prevent the victim from accepting help. All the while the narcissist is feeding their victims loved ones false information for the sole purpose of further alienating or severing the relationships (known as flying monkeys)

 

codependents are primed for gaslighting from their childhood attachment trauma the subconscious programming relationship template and their lifelong mental health and self love deficient problems. And the experiences set the stage for them to fall victim to the narcissist and identify with implanting  (false) stories about who they are, how they feel, what they think how valued and loved they are by others, and little how little power they have at putting an end to their own problems.

If you think you have been a victim of narcissistic abuse please reach out and book a complimentary call with me

 

Stay safe

 

Love Holly xx