Narcissistic sociopaths can often make you feel drained. You’re not sure why but you always feel exhausted in the relationship. Narcissistic sociopaths have only one concern: themselves. Every move they make and everything they put energy into is only to nourish their own image and desires.

Sometimes they don’t really realise they are doing it. And sometimes it’s because they haven’t recovered their own past traumas and like broken glass, they inflict wounds on others as they live their lives.

We first we have to acknowledge that it is a huge milestone that you are able to recognise they are a narcissistic sociopath and that you are a victim of narcissistic abuse. This is a point many people have yet to arrive in their relationships and labelling it means that your healing can begin.

Second, realise that they have been this way since the very beginning of the relationship. Perhaps they had groomed you to believe otherwise until they showed they're  true colours. But whether it was obvious or not, your partner was a narcissistic sociopath today and on the day you met them. It is not your fault. You did not cause them to behave this way.

Third, for the whole relationship you felt like the inferior one, now it is time to give yourself the love you deserve. Though you may genuinely love your partner, you are your own individual. Learn to trust yourself, learn to practice self-love, make time for the things that bring you joy. There might be pushback from your narcissistic partner, who is not used to seeing you self-validated. But recognise that you deserve this for your own well-being.

Whether you decide to stay in the relationship or not, living with a narcissistic sociopath means you need to set your own boundaries. And distinguish the differences between their behaviour and the way you feel and live in your own life.