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Brain, Mind , Body , Spirit Based Therapy, Coaching & Energy healing To Heal Narcissistic Trauma, Abuse & ptsd & Anxiety Disorders.
Not many people may understand what you have gone through or are going through. It is a very lonely, isolating place to be I know. But I understand you.
Having first-hand experience for many years of narcissistic abuse by more than one person in my life and also having listened to many clients talk about their narcissistic parents or partners during my Therapy sessions, I really wanted to become qualified to help my clients through a trauma informed lens. Up to date current science based information would only suffice!
Co-dependents and narcissists are like 2 pieces of a jigsaw. When put together they fit perfectly, the need for each is a match made in heaven. However, this heavenly, heady relationship inevitably becomes a toxic one. The perfect fit becomes a horrendous one and the jigsaw becomes a massive puzzle.
To heal from such a relationship, whether it be a parent or partner is not an overnight fix. Top class coaching and therapy is needed with someone who specialises in this specific area. My promise to you is that I will take you through your own personal exciting journey with empathy, understanding and humour and will be at your side for the the duration of our working together. Throughout I will be developing your own awareness of self love, a total sense of worth and self-esteem.
Finally heal from Narcissistic Abuse & Childhood Trauma and be free to be you & live with purpose knowing who you really are. The universe is a vibrational place. Our frequencies are our attracting points. This means, anything from our past that is holding us back, is creating a negative attracting point and blueprint.
I help you to dissolve hidden trauma and blocks at the origin, deep within your subconscious mind. It’s here that we’re able to effectively dissolve programming and unresolved trauma from childhood, so you can finally be free to achieve success, purpose and expansion in your relationships, career and within yourself.
My goal is to help you understand your childhood brainwashing and what it will take for you to completely heal, and shift your vibrational set point so that you can learn the secrets needed to become a deliberate creator.
No matter what has happened to you in your life, you can heal, and begin attracting people, and circumstances into your life that you serve your growth.
Codependency is created in childhood. When we come from homes that are oppressive, we are taught (brainwashed) to believe that what we think does not matter. We are programmed to disassociate from what we are feeling. And when we are taught that what we feel is insignificant, we learn early to disassociate from our bodies. Once we disassociate, we also disempower ourselves. Until we change our vibrational set points-our lives cannot change.
BRAINSPOTTING & EMDR- where you look affects what you FEEL. Using Bilateral sounds and resource brain spots, the brain and body can start to heal the inner trauma that narcissistic abuse brings. This is a powerful therapy for healing trauma and Complex-PTSD.
HYPNOTHERAPY & Rapid Transformational Therapy.
A Bespoke Self Hypnosis Audio where the reprogramming and re-wiring of the subconscious brain takes place (neuroplasticity). This can be an extremely empowering part of the programme!
BREATHWORK & VAGUS NERVE TONING Polyvagal Theory (the regulation of our nervous system and in turn, how to regulate yours)
SOMATIC BELIEF REPROGRAMMING©️ This is deep ‘inner child’ work. Our childhood will have played a major role as to WHY we were drawn to the narcissist. This does not necessarily mean that you had an abusive traumatic childhood but you (as we all do) make beliefs as children and those beliefs can carry through with us to adulthood as they are embedded in our subconscious mind. So, together we will investigate your childhood wounds and using Somatic Belief Reprogramming© Therapy, heal those wounds.
POSITIVE PSYCHOLOGY you will really start to concentrate on what you DO want rather than what you DON’T want! I will take you through some amazing Profiling so that you can really start to recognise the important parts of your life so that you can be authentic to yourself and be the very best version of you.
ENERGY HEALING & SOUL REALIGNMENT
cut the energetic cords and karmic cycle & receive energy healing
Learn what sub personalities are, and the parts of you that are stopping you from moving forward such as complex PTSD, anxiety, depression, people pleasing, self sabotage, emotional eating and pain to name a few using Internal Family Systems, an evidence based parts therapy
i'm ready to heal
Narcissistic abuse & anxiety disorders must be looked at through a trauma informed mind body and spirit approach
Narcissistic abuse is the most insidious form of abuse. Not only can it wreak havoc on your brain, psyche & nervous system but is also dangerous and detrimental to your health, psychosomatic illnesses and your soul and energy field. Just a few affirmations and counselling with a plaster stuck over the wound of this trauma is going to cut it. It goes much deeper than this. Trauma can not be cured just on a MIND BODY healing it has to healed in every molecule and energy of your being. You literally have to heal yourself back to life soul, body, mind and on an epigenetic and energetic level.
How do I know this? Because I’ve walked the path I’ve been a victim of narcissistic abuse and I go deep to the root cause resolution of this.
Narcissistic abuse is TRAUMA and time does not heal narcissistic abuse, you need intentional cognitive AND somatic deep healing techniques to start to heal the brain, mind and body at the nervous system level through a trauma informed lens.
Being a trauma informed programme means the goal is root cause resolution NOT just symptom management.
IF YOU HAVE THE COURAGE TO WALK DOWN THIS PATH WITH ME TODAY I WILL BE WAITING FOR YOU AT THE OTHER SIDE OF YOUR PILGRIM TO FREEDOM. TO UNLEASH THE HEALER WITHIN YOU AND YOU HAVE THE POWER TO DO THIS STARTING FROM TODAY. YOU ARE NOT ALONE AND NEVER WILL BE FROM THIS DAY FORTH.
Releasing Immediate Pain & Abandonment
Learn Attachment Focused EMDR Resources to minimise activation and polyvagal exercises to nurture feelings of more peace, calm and safety so you can regulate yourself
Control Your Environment For Deep Healing & Safety
Create an environment conducive to accelerate your healing and releasing the addiction and the trauma bond to the narcissist once and for all
Timeline Of Potential Dysregulatory Events
Your body tells the story of your lived experiences from childhood where words sometimes can’t speak. Learn what your body story is and how to heal that
Healing Your SELF Worthiness Wound
Understanding where the negative beliefs of I am not good enough, I am not worthy, I am not loveable and I am not important come from and helping you release that shame and guilt so you can start living in the present
Your Personal Autonomic Nervous System Profile Map.
The Polyvagal theory is the explanation of why we react the way we do in our nervous system. Profile your own nervous system to gain a deeper understanding of your body and what triggers you to feel danger and threat and what gives you glimmers of safety and connection.
What “Parts” Are Stopping Your Healing?
Using Internal Family Systems, an evidence based parts therapy, get to know your own parts that are stopping you from healing and what SELF worthiness wound is stopping you living as your true SELF. Learn why they are keeping you stuck and and integrate them into your true SELF
Start To Heal The Fragmented Self
Using Flash EMDR to reduce activation and timestamp the memories into the past rather than causing triggers in the present in the hippocampus, the long term memory centre of the limbic system in your brain.
Flash EMDR allows processing without thinking of the traumatic event so you can REMEMBER past events rather than RE LIVE them with activation in the present
Forgiving Yourself & Releasing Toxic Shame
Using positive psychology interventions to forgive yourself and release any anger, shame and guilt you are feeling about your life releasing you from seeking external approval and validation to live as your best SELF.
Brainspotting To Heal Your Wounded Inner Child
Where you look affects how you feel and using biolateral sounds and resource brainspots, the brain can start to heal the wounded inner child. A deeply powerful experience
Releasing Pain Stored In The Body
Using Brainspotting techniques and the integration method, you can work on the pain that may have been caused from excess cortisol from being in a perpetual trauma response of fight, flight or freeze leading to inflammation in the body that causes pain
Upgrade Your Inner Child & Reparent Yourself
Your attachment in childhood and perception of events will have played a huge part in why you ended up with a narcissist or that you have had a narcissistic parent. Your SELF worthiness wound will have come from interpreting events as being BECAUSE of you as opposed to happening TO you. Using Rapid Transformational Therapy (RTT), you can upgrade your inner child into your world today as the adult self and reparent her giving her that she did not receive or learn as a child. This is a truly deep healing and powerful experience
Your Best True Self
Learning to focus on what you do want rather than what you don’t has a deeply transformative effect on what you manifest into your life. The goal is to live a life as close to your true self feeling joy, love and connection at a deep level because it is your birthright to live a joyful, happy life.
Soul Realignment & shamanic healing. Heal energetically from ancestral karma & unlock your soul gifts
Ancestral work & Soul Retrieval for dissociation
Cord cutting from Toxic Relationships
Setting up a place of Power and Sanctuary and sacred space
Reconnect with nature to get grounded and heal the nervous system
Meet your Animal Spirit guides
Living a soul centred life and rituals to feel safe & connected
what our time together covers..
"Narcissistic Abuse is TRAUMA. It affects you in both a cognitive AND somatic way. Those victimised by a narcissist can feel lost, isolated, alone and that no one believes you. I believe you, I see you and I hear you. Narcissistic abuse can happen to anyone and so many times feelings of guilt and shame come up but this is NOT your fault. Make no mistake, narcissistic abuse is TRAUMA and I have not met anyone yet who has been the victim of narcissistic abuse that did not have all the symptoms of complex PTSD. Lets get intentional with your healing"
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Free from Fear, overwhelm, anxiety, depression, analysis paralysis, self sabotage, OCD & Addictions that are holding you back to living in full alignment and feeling Safe.
Release Trauma & Eliminate old belief systems, fears and doubts forever.
Learn how to calm and regulate your nervous system. You will have knowledge as to what is happening in your brain, mind and body and why you have been stuck & Start to trust yourself again
Clarity on your Purpose? get super clear on you and your authentic self and follow through with your dreams and desires with Soul Realignment & positive Psychology
Learn about early attachment and how your childhood can impact how you operate as an adult
You will have a deeper understanding of why you were a magnet to a narcissist & Learn how to spot the red flags and take back control of your life
Increased self confidence, so you feel good about yourself, like yourself and BELIEVE in yourself. Get Excited about living your life again rather than just existing
"I THANK GOD I FOUND YOU EVERYDAY.YOU ARE BRINGING ME BACK TO LIFE. ANYBODY WHO HAS SUFFERED NARCISSISTIC ABUSE FROM PARENTS, SIBLINGS, HUSBAND OR WIFE NEEDS YOU IN THEIR WORLD. THANK YOU." "
"Finally free from the toxic shame of my narcissistic parent!"
"i was stuck in a looping cycle of depression, anxiety & binge eating and self sabotaging myself & my career after childhood trauma"'
"I went from being depressed, having anxiety & binge eating to feeling happy & safe!"
"Your an mazing person to committing to treating people after your own experiences & thank you so much for helping me regain sense of self worth after Narcissistic abuse again."
"I was doubtful this would work for me, but wow i was wrong. you need this!"
This is the only trauma informed programme out there to heal the trauma of narcissistic abuse at this deep nervous system & spiritual level using this unique integration of trauma informed therapy , energy healing and coaching and you can be part of this movement
You are on this earth to live life not just exist and hope that you may feel better one day. Make today your day one.
Investing in yourself is the best investment you can ever make because when you heal yourself, you heal your next generation and potentially up to 7 generations deep
LEARN HOW TO SELF-PROCESS YOUR TRAUMAS With Me By Your Side & REPROGRAM YOUR SUBCONSCIOUS MIND
Lack of knowledge leads to panic, overwhelm and stress, but this doesn’t have to be the case. Our time together will guide you through all you need to know and do.
valued at £44!
Is an exclusive MEMBERSHIP & COMMUNITY that offers a Holistic way of living & working that helps women after Abuse & trauma from Anxiety, stress & burnout to taking a quantum leap into the alchemy of your life and onto a path of Metanoia and a new earth within.
Empowering you to restore inner balance and cultivating power within by using a beautiful fusion of ancient teachings with a modern approach to healing the mind body & spirit after trauma
100% Guarantee you will have the information you need to start your journey to heal the trauma of narcissistic abuse & anxiety disorders
We cover all aspects of healing from strategy, education, nervous system regulation, Energy healing and awareness all through a TRAUMA INFORMED lens.
Have lost trust in yourself , angry, frustrated and confused. Restless and short attention span. You have difficulty in making decisions.
Experiencing negative looping thoughts & behaviours and you are in a cycle of self sabotage, perfectionism, OCD ,overwhelm, analysis paralysis and are fed up with staying STUCK!
Suffering from Anxiety or Depression, co-dependency past emotional flashbacks, abandonment issues & past traumas.
You are suffering from stress related illnesses such as anxiety, digestive problems and auto immune disorders to name a few that were not there preceding the narcissist
You keep holding yourself back because of fear of failure & are unclear with what you want and your purpose?
You feel like you are crazy and no one believes you!!
Your A BIG PEOPLE PLEASER which makes you feel frustrated because you are not putting your needs first and feel guilty all the time.
You often doubt yourself, longing to find SELF CONFIDENCE and SELF LOVE within. You are tired of not living the life you deserve
Will i feel worse working together?
The very first session together is all about resourcing you to equip you with tools to manage your activation. The course has been designed with your safety as a priority
i stil have a narcissist in my life!! can we still work together?
Yes, of course. Learning why you are with a narcissist and bringing that awareness is the first step to healing and safety is your number one priority.
how long do we work together for?
Between 6-12 weeks. We go at a pace your nervous system allows us to go where it feels safe. we see each other between 2-4 hours a week
do i have to complete the workbooks?
No you don’t. However, this is a way of personalising the learning to your own healing journey. And, some people learn best when reading and writing; it’s your choice.
the narcissist is my parent is this right for me?
Yes this program is suitable for anyone who has had a narcissist in their life and struggling to heal
i'm not sure im in the right place to do this yet
This program has the beginning of your journey in mind. It is suitable for both those right at the start and those years down the line.
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""I THANK GOD I FOUND YOU EVERYDAY.YOU ARE BRINGING ME BACK TO LIFE. ANYBODY WHO HAS SUFFERED NARCISSISTIC ABUSE FROM PARENTS, SIBLINGS, HUSBAND OR WIFE NEEDS YOU IN THEIR WORLD. THANK YOU.""
Holly is Bridging the gap of ancient wisdom and new age and awakening humanity to a better way. She found herself frustrated by the limitations of traditional psychotherapy. Wanting more for her clients—and for herself after suffering from burnout, Anxiety and complex PTSD—she began a journey to develop a united philosophy of mental, physical, and spiritual health that equips people with the tools necessary to heal themselves.
Holly Wheeler is a survivor of narcissistic abuse and overcome severe perfectionism. Holistic Somatic Trauma Therapist, Narcissistic Trauma informed coach, Clinical Hypnotherapist, researcher, Author, Shamanic Practitioner, Master Reiki healer & a Bob Proctor Consultant.
In her easy to understand encouraging and compassionate style she has worked with 100’s of women. She teaches passionately about the discoveries of Somatic trauma therapy, neuroscience, epigenetics, quantum physics and ancient wisdom to overcome trauma & abuse, to rewiring your brain and reconditioning your whole body, heal illnesses and spirit to make lasting changes to a place of Self discovery, love & leading a more fulfilled business & life. She was born in Hastings, UK and leads women back home to awaken their own power, self-love & wisdom.
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